These few tiny mental habits will change your life

How to be invincible

I have been a huge fan of Sarah Blakely. She turned $5000 dollar into a billion dollar selling undergarment.

I lately listened to her on a podcast.

Sarah said you must constantly update your software and hardware. Sarah works out and listen to lots of self-help authors, a habit she picked up from her dad.

So I put myself out as a human guinea pig. The type who experiments a lot. I spent sometime during the day to listen to people I admire.

It has been 30 days, and I must say the experiments have been a smashing success.

I have picked up habits that earned me more money, connect with wonderful people, and 10X my happiness.

Here I am sharing them with you, completely free, there is no catch. I also attached a wonderful job opportunity at the end of this newsletter.

1. The best state of mind is to be “relaxed and ambitious”

4 months ago, I met Chris. A wonderful man. Chris started a successful branding agency, sold it to an advertising giant. Then he became a trainer in Design Thinking.

To see Chris in action is a sensational experience. He can lead a room of powerful executives. He inspires them, make them speak up while having great time. People laugh, they do difficult home work for him.

Now, if you ever become a corporate trainer, it is a tough job. People are busy, they are stressed. But Chris just slipped into the room and dazzled the whole crowd.

I am turning 34 this December. And I must say when I grow up I want to be Chris.

He is ambitious but always at ease with himself and with everyone else.

And that is the best state of mind.

Scientists and Monk have talked about the same thing for thousands of years.

But very few people actually practice this contradiction.

Why?

Because so many choose to lead with Fear: Parents, Schools, Work, Advertising.

I am a child of two hypercritical parents. I was raised on Fear. “If you do not know how to embroider, mend your clothes, cook and clean, nobody gonna love you”- WTF? Mom.

I have long forgiven my parents, they lived through the 17 years of war. Fear was hard-coded.

My upbringing actually made me resourceful. and I was very good at being ambitious. But the Fear made me very uptight person. Driven and uptight.

It was fine at first, victory tastes wonderful. But my stress escalated after each outcome. I was never good enough. My health suffered. My relationships suffered. My happiness was always conditional on the next achievement.

The gift of my 30s? Finally understanding that I can be both ambitious and at peace.

Since embracing this, I sleep better, work better, and live with ease. I barely recognize myself

So I hope you get your time to relax properly today. Do not watch more Youtube and TikTok shorts. Learn proper relaxation.

Your future self will thank you.

2. If you want to be the master of anything, expect chaos and boredom

The world now is designed to make you lazy. You wake up, open your eyes. Open your phone and several hours can go by without you knowing it.

Doomscrolling now is one of the biggest diseases of modern life.

Without taking the right action to be mindful, you might become a walking zombie.

Even worse, you started multiple projects and finished none. And because of this, your self confidence at all time low. How do I know this? I was living like this until I realize I cannot let the Internet Overlords decide for me anymore.

I must carve out times during the day to be bored. I take walks, staring out of the windows and clean.

I sit with discomfort instead of numbing it.

The world is designed to make you lazy, escape that mouse trap

3. Find your roses in the shit pile you are in

Two weeks ago, my internet bullies decided to hire a hacker. They hacked into Facebook system and deactivated my Facebook account.

All of the memories, all of the photos, friendship for 14 years gone.

Facebook support was useless.

I was very angry at first. The pain seeped through me like an alligator bite. But then I remembered what every mentor I respect has taught me: hardship is where resilience is built.

So I asked myself: What’s good about this?

And I found it.

I realized how much time I spent managing a community of close to 200,000 people.

With so much more time on my hands. I draw a lot. I draw everything. My skills improve and at the depth of it, I found my confidence, a form of self love, peace and calm I have not found for years.

More importantly, I bounced back from my darkness.

If you practice the Rose thinking, finding your positive in all sort of challenges. Life will reward you well.

You might feel the resistance at first. You will have to work through a loop of negative thoughts and the fear of not knowing.

But if you keep asking yourself “What is so good about X?”

You will find that shiny, colorful light at the end of a dark tunnel.

That is it, these are three mental habits that make me stronger and wealthier after practicing.

I hope you find these lessons useful.

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Warmest,

Sandra